A Love Letter by Brenda from You Can Always Start Now
March 9, 2018
A positive aspect about aging is perspective. I am trying to live with no regrets – something you taught me. I know you found it hard to say the words I love you. And, looking back, I realize it was both your era and personality. To put yourself out there and be hurt and disappointed is hard. As a woman now, I realize how hard your life was.
What I Love About You
What I love about you, Mom, is that you were a feminist without even realizing it. Your actions made me the woman I am today. Just do it. Take care of it. I don’t wait around for a man, or anyone really, to make a decision. If I want a room painted I do it. If I want a renovation I make the decision and do the work. If I want to travel I make the plans. I do not wait around for someone else to tell me what they want while I sit and wait. I do it. I take care of it. I am not a delicate flower waiting to be swept off my feet. You made me a woman who takes action and deals.
I didn’t have to hear the words I love you to know I was loved. You were the first person to show me actions are more important to words. If they don’t align the words mean nothing. They are just someone mouthing what we often want to hear. You never said anything you didn’t mean. You were honest and had integrity.
Let Me Get My Coat
You showed your love for me through actions. The ones I love the best were your “let me get my coat” moments. If a friend let me down, or I wanted to see a movie, or I needed a coffee and just had to get out of the house, you were game for anything. “Let me get my coat” took us to Indiana Jones, library, coffee shops and more. To have someone willing to just drop anything and go–can you imagine having a friend like that! Just let me get my coat!
Thank you mom for helping me be the woman I am today. I am now the individual who is called when people want to try or go somewhere different and need someone to say, “just let me get my coat.” I am the person people say “Oh! Bren will try that or go there. She is open to everything.” You gave me that sense of freedom to say, “let me get my coat,” to put words into actions, and just do it.
Thank you, from one woman to another, getting our coats. xo
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A note about the featured photo: The African violet in the picture was Brenda’s mother’s. It’s thirty years old. And though Brenda’s mom died eight years ago, the transplanted leaves given to family and friends, live on.
Your turn: In what unexpected ways have your parents or people in your life shown love?
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